Can You Relate To Someone Projecting His or Her Own Guilts and Flaws Unto You?

Sometimes, we may demonstrate a projection of our own needs and wants, in relationship to trying to get someone to do something that we think is for his or her 'own good'. We put on them, a guilt-trip, or try to overbearingly manipulate them into what we think is best for them. All-the-while, whatever it is that we are trying to get them to do, is something that we (actually) want to do, or need to do; like (perhaps) get a new job, go to school, or get a new car. It may be easier to 'live vicariously' through others, than to accomplish these needs and wants, ourselves.

Sometimes, we may have another unfair way of coping with things. That way, is to project unto others, our own 'gilts and flaws'. Who has not done this; right? It's 'to point-fingers' at someone, because another individual wants to take away the attention of his or her (actual) shortcomings. It's easier to (maximize) find fault in others, than to deal with one's own gilts and flaws; perhaps it's a way an easy way of minimizing our own. However, how effective is it, really?

Double-Standards - the "It's OK for Me but Not for You" Inconsistency - Yahoo! Voices - voices.yahoo.com
is a perspective, regarding double-standard inconsistencies, that which you may be able to identify with.